It is currently 6:23am and I am sat at work. I thought I would address a big issue that many of us will experience in the coming weeks. I woke up this morning with an overwhelming feeling of dread. It is not uncommon for me to get up at 5:30am and it is something I have grown accustomed to without too much complaint. That is, until this morning… I have been getting up at this time all summer and although sometimes I’d feel a little sleepy, this morning I had a real anxiety about life in general. One of those where you analyse every aspect of your life and life decisions and question the person you’ve become whilst in the shower trying to shock yourself into waking up. The reason for this?
It was pitch black.
Like as dark as a yawning grave.
Now something you should know about me – I really really dislike negativity – in any form – and so upon awakening in this weird, anxious mood I realised I need to acknowledge that this as a real problem and work out how I can switch this to a positive experience and asap as I will be waking up in what feels like the dead of night at least 3 times a week for the next 6 months.
I do not want to feel like I did this morning 75 times before April. No no.
So here I am writing this post instead of making my way through my usual Monday morning to dos. Where did I go wrong? What did I do to deserve such feelings? I have scoured my mind for clues and have come up with what I think is an achievable 5 step plan to combat the bluest of Monday morning blues… so let’s see how we get on.
- Go to bed early
This is surely the most obvious thing but clearly not for me as I switched the light out at 00:30 last night. It is scientifically proven that it is harder to change negative feelings into positive if you haven’t had enough sleep (source: the internet somewhere) Getting enough sleep is essential to feel prepared for your week. Treat yourself – get in your PJs and get into bed early. Spend an hour winding down before you turn the light out. Turn your phone on airplane mode and give your family and friends your home phone number (who has one these days?) to call only in an emergency.
- Booze less
Yes really. I don’t want to sound like a party pooper (or maybe the regretful owner of the fear from a 3 day hangover who’s decided she’s never drinking again) but our society is in a mess with our binge drinking culture. Our weekends and days off should be spent relaxing and recharging not partying ourselves into oblivion. Don’t get me wrong I am partial to the odd spritzer (or 4) but let’s just respect that word moderation a little more and take up some new – less damaging – hobbies and interests! Cycling, more yoga, walking and days out are all things I’m adding to my list in the coming months.. let’s see how that goes.
- Forgive yourself
In contradiction to the above post don’t dwell over past decisions as we all know there is simply nothing you can do to change them. If you partied all weekend and had a bloody good time – allow it! We all deserve to have fun so don’t let your fearful feelings drown out the buzz of having a darn good time! Change is the only constant and we have to learn to accept that there will be days we feel good and days we feel rubbish – life is not always as happy as your instagram feed! The sooner we accept that, the sooner our bad days won’t seem so bad.
- Feel grateful
Before you get out of bed think of 5 things you are truly grateful for and go through each one individually feeling it right into your core. Then as you step out of bed and go through your morning routine – showering – brushing teeth – getting dressed – having breakfast.. stamp out all negative thoughts with feelings of gratitude. Don’t allow room for anxiety or bad feelings. Love conquers all people!
- Take a time out.
Have a to do list the length of your arm? Forget about it for the first 10 minutes of your working day. Sit in complete silence with a hot drink and glass of lemon water. Clear your mind and close your eyes. Focus on your breathing and just be present for 10 minutes – noticing how your body feels and noticing any prominent emotions – acknowledge how you are feeling – allow yourself to be – accept yourself as you are and then go and show that to-do-list who’s boss!
I hope this gives you some ideas for coping with these dark mornings over the next few months! Here is a little image you could put as a reminder on your phone as we all know we’ll do this once and then never again! Ha!
Have a great week!
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